Cool. When I saw your response, I saw you had switched the genders. But it didn't occur to me that you were making a point about gender, because I wasn't. (My interplanetary, possibly Autism spectrum view took over.)

So I went on, blah blah blah, thinking that we can go ahead and Bechtel test everything because abuse is wrong and so it doesn't matter what gender anyone is in my little abstract universe.

On to Axioms.

As in, deeply held beliefs. Beliefs reinforced by the outside culture.

No I don't think that women automatically own the bedroom any more than men automatically own the outside world, but I get that we live in a society in which those notions are alive and well and need to be uprooted.

If you are into the Coercive Control books, recall Evan Stark and Lundy Bancroft both marveling at how specific the abuse gets, because abusive f**kers will try all sorts of methods of control and then they use what sticks. The culture reinforces the roles used by the controller to control, such that we do all stupidly, numbly, accept the abuse or look away or fail to recognize it as such.

Proves both our points really. Context matters. Cultural norms matter. People behave according to what they believe. Beliefs often need to be corrected, along with cultural norms.

Peace out!